How to Get–and Keep–a Husband

 

1957_0828_constance

Aug. 28, 1957

Los Angeles

If it’s true that a woman without a man is like a fish without a
bicycle, then author Kate Constance wants every salmon to have a
Schwinn. She’s written a book on the subject, "How to Get and Keep
a Husband," which is being serialized in the Mirror.

In Part 3, she asks: Are you made for marriage? And she cautions fish
on the difference between getting a marriage proposal–and being
propositioned.

Constance is blunt: "If you are 30 years old and aren’t married,
something is wrong. That something is not necessarily wrong with you.
Perhaps it is in your environment or circumstances.

1957_0828_constance_pix
"But very likely it is you–your attitudes, your personality, your objectives or your appearance."

Because for every fish that’s ready for marriage, there is a bicycle
waiting to be ridden, she says. But are you ready? Here’s the Made for
Marriage quiz:

1. Are you over 30? Are you
having a pity party because you aren’t married? Are you "drowning your
disappointment in work, reading, all-girl activities and family
interests?"

2. Do you have physical deficiencies? "If you are burdened with a deformity or defect, do you almost hate yourself for it and envy those who are happily married?"

3. Not have an education? Does
your lack of learning keep you in a bad job and exclude you from
situations where you might meet eligible men? Or do you avoid social
situations because you are afraid you’ll say something stupid?

4. Are you broke? Do you think that money will solve all your problems and do you envy people who have more than you?

5. Are you homely? "Is your
face or your figure so unbecoming that you cringe when you look in the
mirror?" Worse yet, do you think men make fun of your looks?

6. Are you a 5 in a world of 10s? Are you so fed up with trying to look good, feel good and be good that you want to give up and become a slob?

If you answered yes to any of these questions, you are not a fish who is ready for a bicycle!

Because many of the things you want so much don’t matter to men, Constance says.

To be sure, she says, money, youth and a good figure get male
attention. But more often than not, the fish won’t get a marriage
proposal–she’ll get propositioned!

Constance warns: "Too many women, finding it difficult to win a
husband, resort to every available physical means to arouse and satisfy
the males they attract. In so doing, they destroy the very codes and
standards they would prefer to live by." Or as Charlie Chan might say:
"Girl who do everything under sun get everything sunburned."

And Constance says looks are less important than you imagine. Because regardless
of what you think, a bicycle will ask a beautiful fish up to his apartment, but not down the aisle.

"Men shy from married life with a woman who is too
good-looking, fearing that she may overshadow him, that she will prove
to be selfish and spoiled, and that she may be unfaithful," Constance says.

"The sad truth is that a beautiful woman too often feels that character
and personality are unnecessary, and that she has all she needs to get
by–until age creeps up and takes her most precious asset."

And age is truly unimportant, Constance says. The problem is that some
fish have an inferiority complex because they are over 30.

What do bicycles want from fish? "Emotional maturity, poise,
considerateness, intellectual stimulation and efficient homemaking."
None of which have anything to do with money, looks or age!

Her final advice: Be your better self.

[Note: In case there is any doubt, let me add: As with the horoscopes, this is for entertainment purposes only.–lrh]

Email me

About lmharnisch

I am retired from the Los Angeles Times
This entry was posted in Uncategorized and tagged , , , , . Bookmark the permalink.

Leave a Reply. Note: Your IP is logged with your comment so a fake name and email address are useless.

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out /  Change )

Google photo

You are commenting using your Google account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s